Nobody is perfect that is what we are told but why is that, whenever we made a mistake we tend to blame ourselves and our favorite go to phrases is, “I’m stupid”, which made us feel that we are not enough. If not being perfect is the universal truth then why we strive so hard to be one? All the successful people who left a dent in the surface of the Earth are all preaching that their failures and the set backs are the pivotal moments of their success, the bitter pills that they have to swallow to feel better. Then if mistakes pays off how can we get the consciousness that when we fall down, we will get up better? How are we going to be more effective in navigating through the lessons that our previous mistakes have taught us and will teach us? How can we call out ourselves during the moments we are down that “Hey this is it, I needed this failure to win.”?
We tend to generalized things based on what we have already experienced, which is not bad it is just how we are wired to act. Generalization help us be more efficient in doing things, just like how we don’t need to learn how to write again when we got a new pair of pen and notebook. But our generalization also have tendency to sustain us in our current situation, most of us branded theirselves us not good in Math, when they had a failed an exam in school or had a very bad experience of the subject in their classroom, they accepted that as their reality and stay far away from the subject. Some people even went to the extend that failure is a sign from god or the universe, that it was not meant to be.
"Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing." - Denis Waitley
- Start by acknowledging failure is part of the process
- If you want something different, something more, you have to do more and do something different than what you are currently doing now
- Create a list in retrospect on
- How did it happened?
- What are the road blocks that shows up in the process?
- What are the things you should do to get a better outcome?
- What went right?
- Get feedback on how to do it better next time, get a mentor
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